If you think about it, finding love on Tinder is like looking for a needle in a haystack. And if on top of that, you have to deal with fake profiles or people who are not authentic, things get even more complicated.
But do not be discouraged. If you have made a match and want the conversation to go beyond a simple greeting, here's how to start chatting and some tips and ideas to start a successful conversation on Tinder.
How to start chatting with someone on Tinder
Once you have a match, congratulations! you have already passed the first phase. What should you do now? Well, these are the steps to follow to start chatting with someone on Tinder.
- If you both like each other on Tinder, a message saying "it's a match" will be displayed on the screen.
- At this point, you can start chatting or swipe to go to the main screen.
- If you choose to go to the main screen instead of chatting right away, tap the message icon at the bottom of the screen.
- Now, all that remains is to open the person's chat and start a conversation. It is that easy!
Tips and ideas to start a conversation on Tinder
Here are some tips and ideas to start a conversation on Tinder and conquer hearts right off the bat. You lose nothing by putting them into practice, even if you feel nervous.
Customize your messages
Before you say the traditional greeting, take a moment to look at the other person's profile. Yes, we know you want to start chatting right away, but spend a few minutes finding something that catches your eye, whether it is a photo, a common hobby, or a detail that intrigues you. Use this information to your advantage to start chatting.
And, of course, do not forget to ask open-ended questions. Instead of asking closed-ended questions that only require a yes or no answer, try to ask something that encourages the other person to talk a bit more.
Try to be playful
Of course, we're not talking about sending inappropriate messages right out of the gate, but a little humor or a nice comment can instantly make the conversation interesting.
For example, if you notice that the other person has a photo with a dog, you might say something like: "Your smile is beautiful! But I have to admit, your little dog is stealing the show, right?".
Stay away from delicate topics
No one wants to talk about politics, religion, or ex-partners on the first date, especially on a chat. That is like jumping into the pool without getting your feet wet first, don't you think?
Keep the conversation light and fun, focusing on getting to know the other person's likes, interests, and passions. In other words, leave those issues for later, when you are already comfortable with each other.
Be yourself
Do not try to be someone you are not, we know that sometimes it is tempting to fake interests or attitudes to fit in or make a good impression. But in the long run, this will only spell disaster.
The right person will accept you as you are, with your strengths and weaknesses, quirks and oddities. You do not need to pretend to be someone you are not to be liked. The person you are talking to will most likely value your honesty more than you can imagine.